Why the Same Uncomfortable Emotions Keep Coming Back (And Why Relief Isn’t Resolution)

After years of working with the Light Body and subtle energetic cycles, certain questions tend to repeat themselves, not because people aren’t doing the work, but because something essential is being misunderstood.

This question came from one of my students, and it’s worth slowing down and really listening to it:

“Why do the same uncomfortable emotions keep returning, even though I regularly release tension through exercise or movement?”

If this question resonates with you, you’re not alone.

Many people respond to inner tension in the same way. When restlessness, frustration, irritation, or a strange pressure builds up in the body, the instinct is to move. To do something physical. To run, walk, train, or anything that helps discharge the intensity until the system settles.

And in some ways, this works.

After movement, the body feels lighter. The nervous system calms down. The intensity softens. Breathing becomes easier. For a moment, it genuinely feels as if something has been resolved.

And usually, that’s where the story ends.

Until, some time later, the same sensation returns. The same inner tension. The same emotional flavour and tone. Only this time, it’s triggered by a different situation, a different person, or a different context.

This is often the point where self-doubt creeps in.

Why does this keep happening? Why doesn’t it stay resolved?

The reason is subtle, but important.

What happened through movement was not completion; it was release.

Physical activity is excellent for regulating the nervous system and helping the body return to balance. That support is necessary. But the deeper energetic pattern behind the emotion, the part that initiated the charge in the first place, did not complete its cycle.

It didn’t reach the end of its movement through the system.

There was relief, but no integration.

The body calmed down, yet the underlying process remained unfinished. And unfinished processes tend to return, not because something went wrong, but because they are still seeking completion.

Over time, the system learns a simple habit: when discomfort appears, move. Shift attention. Step away from the sensation. This isn’t a mistake, and it’s not something to judge. It’s simply conditioning, a pattern that forms because it works well enough for a while.

But there is a distinction many people miss.

Movement regulates the system. Nestioo Processing transforms it.

One helps you stabilize and recover. The other allows reorganization at a deeper level, where patterns actually change.

In Nestioo work, we don’t try to get rid of uncomfortable inner states, suppress emotional energy, or “work it out” of the system. Instead, we create space for the Light Body, the wiser part of you that sees the whole picture and knows how things need to realign, to complete what it has already begun.

That requires staying with what is present, rather than moving away from it.

When space is allowed instead of distraction, the charge no longer needs to repeat itself around the same theme. Not because it was pushed out, but because its cycle finished.

And when a cycle completes, something fundamental shifts. The pattern no longer demands attention. The system no longer needs to recreate the same inner situation in new forms.

At that point, movement naturally returns to its rightful role, supporting the body rather than escaping what’s happening inside.

This distinction may seem subtle on the page, but in lived experience, it changes everything. Because the goal isn’t to stop feeling, or to make life permanently calm. The goal is to allow processes to complete, so they don’t have to keep knocking on the door in new disguises.

That’s where real transformation begins.

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This article is an excerpt from the Nestioo Core Module, the foundational program of the Nestioo method.

The Most Spiritual Thing You Can Do Today

Many people move through life in a quiet state of waiting, with the sense that something more meaningful, more complete, or more “spiritual” is still ahead of them. This perspective offers a different way of looking at that waiting.

In the digital world, everything is made of digital elements, like what you find inside a video game. Even if a game lets you go online or build software inside the game, those features are no more digital than a trash bin in the background that exists only to create a sense of realism. Everything in the game, no matter what it is, is just code.

Something very similar happens in what we call 3D reality. The same logic applies.

Everything is spiritual because 3D is a projection of the spirit. There is no such thing as something being “more spiritual,” although the mind can easily convince itself that there is.

This is often where people start to get confused.

As long as you believe there is something more spiritual waiting for you somewhere ahead, the present moment will feel like a temporary station on the way to something better.
You keep waiting. You might think you know what or who you’re waiting for.

What you’re waiting for often feels like the last piece that needs to fit before everything is complete, but it always seems to be in the future.
Meanwhile, life keeps moving forward.

So let me tell you who you’re actually waiting for…

You’re waiting for a level of awareness that allows you to see that the moment you’re in right now, regardless of whether you’re doing anything “spiritual” or not, is the most spiritual moment of your life.

Yes, I know. At first glance, this sounds contradictory. But it only sounds contradictory when viewed through a logic that considers waiting normal and unquestioned.

So go ahead and make yourself an espresso. Drink it slowly and in peace. DON’T WAIT for anyone while you do this.

You don’t need to go anywhere; you’re already “inside.” This moment is already sacred, just as it is.

That is the most spiritual thing you can do today. And then, take that same energy and let it flow into whatever comes next.

Bowing to someone or something isn’t any more spiritual than slowly enjoying your espresso. What makes something “spiritual” or “non-spiritual” is not the activity itself, but the presence or absence of waiting energy.

We are all inside a “spiritual” game. Saints and criminals alike. Even when you do something labeled ‘spiritual’ in this game, it’s not any more spiritual than anything else you see around you.

What makes something “spiritual” or “non-spiritual” is not the activity itself, but the presence or absence of waiting energy.

Why It’s So Hard to Recognize Your True Talents

If you’ve been thinking about your talents lately, and really paying attention, you might have noticed something strange.

It’s not that you feel untalented. It’s more that you feel like something is missing.

You sense there is something there. Something important. But whenever you try to define it clearly, it slips through your fingers. Nothing quite lands.

You look at what comes easily to you, and it feels too ordinary to matter. You look for something more concrete, something more obvious, but it still doesn’t click.

So you keep searching, assuming the real thing must be somewhere else.

And this is where things usually start to get confusing.

When Talent Doesn’t Feel Like Talent

Very often, your real talents don’t feel like “talents” at all. They don’t arrive with excitement or a sense of importance. They don’t feel rare or impressive. They don’t even feel particularly noticeable. They just feel like how you are. And because of that, they’re easy to overlook.

You think:

“This is just normal.”
“Everyone probably does this.”
“This can’t really be it.”

And without realizing it, you move on.

Your talent isn’t hidden because it’s unclear. It’s hidden because it’s too clear, too close, too familiar, and too obvious to be taken seriously.

What the Brain Struggles to Accept

Here’s the part that’s often hardest for the mind to take in.

Your talent is rarely one clear, dramatic ability. It’s usually an optimally structured combination of things that feel natural, easy, and normal to you. Not a single standout trait, but a way different qualities naturally work together in you. Each element on its own sounds unimpressive.

You might say:

“Of course I notice patterns.”
“Of course I can sense what’s going on with people.”
“Of course I explain things simply.”
“Of course people relax when they talk to me.”

Nothing there sounds special.

And because each part feels obvious, the brain draws a quick conclusion: “There’s nothing here.”

But this is exactly where the misunderstanding happens.

Obvious Doesn’t Mean Common

An “optimally structured combination” doesn’t feel like a skill from the inside. It feels seamless. Effortless. Like a default setting.

You don’t notice it because you’re living inside it every day.

But what feels normal to you often isn’t normal for others. Others may have one of these qualities, sometimes two, but rarely all of them working together in the same way.

The value isn’t in any single trait. It lives in the way qualities that feel natural to you come together and work as one.

And because the mind tends to look at things one by one, it often misses the structure entirely.

A Simple Example

Imagine someone who is intuitive, grounded, articulate, and calm under pressure.

Individually, none of these qualities sound remarkable. Plenty of people are intuitive. Plenty are grounded. Plenty can communicate clearly. But the specific way these qualities come together naturally, without forcing, is not something everyone has. From the inside, it feels obvious. From the outside, it’s not. And yet, the person living inside that combination often assumes: “This is just how things are.”

What feels ordinary to you is often an optimally structured combination that others don’t naturally have.

Why This Gets Confusing Around Value

This is also why the idea of value, especially professional value, can feel strange.

The mind associates value with effort, struggle, and complexity. So when something feels easy, natural, and obvious, the thought: “Someone might actually value this,” or even “Someone might pay for this,” just doesn’t seem to make sense. It feels illogical.

But ease doesn’t mean lack of value. Often, it means something is well-aligned, well-integrated, and functioning exactly as it’s meant to.

A Gentler Way to Look

Instead of asking:

“What am I really good at?”

Try noticing:

“What feels so obvious to me that I barely notice I’m doing it?”

What do people consistently benefit from around you?

What do you dismiss because it comes without effort?

Very often, that’s where the signal is.

Your talent isn’t hidden because it’s unclear. It’s hidden because it’s too clear. Too close. Too familiar. Too obvious to be taken seriously, at least by you.

And sometimes, recognizing it doesn’t require adding anything new. It simply requires slowing down enough to stop dismissing what already feels natural.

You might already be closer than you think.

Did Men Lose Their Masculine Energy, or Did Something Else Change?

Do you ever feel like men have become too “feminine”? Or that women today are too “masculine”?

And what if the issue isn’t actually “them”?

The energetic landscape has changed, especially in the West. Today, it’s completely normal to see men with dominant Yin energy and women with dominant Yang energy. That existed before, yes, but never this visibly, never this strongly.

And no, this isn’t a mistake. It’s part of our collective evolution.

Now, this next part is important.

If you’re a woman and you genuinely feel that men have become “too soft” or “too feminine,” it’s very possible that, right now, you’re carrying more Yang energy than actually supports you. Somewhere along the way, for reasons only your soul really understands, your energy field shifted toward more Yang than actually supports you right now.

And then something very natural happens.

You begin to connect with and feel attracted to men who have stronger Yin energy.

The same dynamic works the other way around.

So the point isn’t that men, as a group, have “lost their masculine energy.” And it’s not that women have “lost their feminine energy” either. That story keeps us on the surface.

What’s far more helpful is to look at what I call your primary point of attraction. That inner setting largely determines who you resonate with and who you naturally feel drawn to.

Times have changed. That’s just a fact.

New times call for a more conscious relationship with the energies we carry inside, along with the willingness to rebalance them when something feels off. Because the outer world is often just a mirror of what’s already active in our field.

One more thing…

There are still plenty of women with abundant Yin energy. And plenty of men with abundant Yang energy.

So the real question isn’t where they disappeared to. The real question is which quality of energy does your field RESPOND TO right now, and which one does it simply NOT REGISTER, without you even noticing it?

In Nestioo, we don’t work on changing who we attract. We work on gently reorganizing the field from which attraction happens.

One of the Core Challenges Every Holisitic Coach Faces

One of the core challenges every coach eventually encounters is the tendency to project their own truth onto the client’s situation.

Let me explain…

Coaches are human. Through personal experience, reflection, and learning, we naturally arrive at certain conclusions about life, relationships, choices, and change.

And if we’re not deeply aware, those conclusions can quietly slip into our work with clients – often with the best intentions.

This is where the real challenge starts.

Each person is their own universe. What was true for us is not necessarily true for the client.

The essence of coaching is not helping a client follow our conclusions, but creating enough space for them to hear themselves clearly.

This doesn’t mean rejecting experience or knowledge. It means knowing when not to place them in front of the client’s inner process.

Let me give you an example.

A client talks about feeling stuck and dissatisfied at work and begins to consider a career change. The coach has gone through a similar phase in their own life and already carries a clear inner sense of what “makes sense” as the next step.

If the coach isn’t aware of that inner conclusion, it can easily leak into the session – (1) through leading questions, (2) subtle reactions, or (3) a shift in tone when the client explores a different direction.

When the coach stays present without needing to guide or know the answer, the focus naturally returns to what’s happening inside the client. Where their energy opens. Where it contracts. What they feel as they speak about different possibilities.

In that space, the client doesn’t receive someone else’s truth. They gain access to their own.

Another example.

A client is going through a crisis in a long-term relationship and is considering separation.
The coach has personally been through a divorce and has drawn strong conclusions about what feels healthy, necessary, or inevitable.

Without enough awareness, those conclusions may surface through (1) questions that subtly favor separation, through (2) emphasizing the relief that can follow divorce, or through (3) gently minimizing the client’s ambivalence.

When the coach remains with the client without the need to validate their own past path, the focus shifts from decision to process.

What comes into the center are the client’s conflicting feelings, fears, longings, and unspoken truths that surface as they consider staying or leaving.

In that space, decisions don’t arise because “this is what one should do,” but because the client has heard themselves clearly enough for what is true to become obvious.

This is why I often say that the basic techniques of coaching can be learned relatively quickly – within two to three years of consistent practice.

What comes after that has little to do with new tools. It’s about increasingly subtle differences in listening, responding, and knowing when not to intervene.

These refinements take time and can’t be rushed. They develop through experience, ongoing practice, and a willingness to continually observe our own tendencies.

The difference between a more experienced coach and someone at the beginning of the journey isn’t primarily about models or methods. It lives in those quiet refinements that are hard to explain, but easy to feel in the quality of the space the coach holds.

And often, it’s precisely those quiet refinements that make the real difference. A sensitivity that Light Body work naturally helps develop.

How One Internal Shift Reshaped the Clients I Attract

There was a time in my coaching career when I felt worn out from working with clients who always needed encouragement just to move forward. They weren’t difficult or bad people, and I don’t want to judge them. Still, I kept repeating the basics and never got to the deeper topics that truly inspired me. Those deeper conversations were the main reason I wanted to be a coach in the first place.

I began to wish for something different. I wanted clients who were self-reliant and ready to take charge of their own growth. I hoped to work with people who saw me as an accelerator, someone who could help them move forward faster and make things easier, not as someone who had to keep motivating them to continue.

In short, I set that intention and pictured myself working with people who fit it. I imagined working with clients who were eager to learn and discover new possibilities and opportunities waiting for them.

I repeated this process many times.

Time passed, but nothing changed.

Everything stayed the same.

Honestly, it took me some time to figure out what was really happening. The answer turned out to be surprisingly simple:

The Universe doesn’t respond to what we want; it responds to who we are.

Put simply…

Back then, without realizing it, I was acting as a rescuer. I didn’t do it on purpose—I just wasn’t aware of the role I was playing.

That unconscious role influenced everything, especially the clients I attracted.

Things only started to change when I became aware of this and learned to manage my urge to save people who weren’t ready to invest in themselves. Nothing shifted until I noticed that impulse in myself and worked through it instead of just reacting.

I’m truly grateful for Mindfulness because it helped me finally notice that pattern, feel it, and work through it instead of letting it shape my entire coaching approach.

Looking back, who I am now might seem a bit cold or distant to my past self. But that’s just part of growing.

So why does this happen in the first place from an energetic perspective?

As long as we carry that hidden urge to save others, we unconsciously send out a very specific signal.

Here’s what that signal attracts:

• people who want to be saved
• people who aren’t ready to stand on their own
• clients who expect us to be their driving force
• relationships where they take motivation from us but don’t take responsibility.

Energetically, the message is:

“I’m the one who needs to lift you.”

So, naturally, people who need lifting are the ones who show up.

But when I stopped acting on that urge to rescue, my inner message became much healthier:

“I’m here to support you, not carry you.”

Honestly, everything changed almost immediately. Suddenly, people who wanted support instead of saving started to show up.

I’m not sure who needs to hear this today, but it’s been on my mind all morning—even during my morning espresso ritual. 😉